Trust your workmates & managers? Open to new worlds

Trust is a very special commodity.

Yet we live in a world full of low-trust & suspicion. The emerging streams of newsfeed fill our waking lives with examples of discrepancies, dishonesty, ulterior motives, not- so-hidden agendas, personal gains, neglectful practice & backhanders which feeds us with low-trust.  So who can we trust? And how? I was always told that there’s no such thing as automatic trust, you have to earn it!

Getting savvy to our own psychological trusting makeup helps us to see through the mist & smokescreens of good relating with others. Personal relationships, romantic relationships, work relationships all demand a level of receptivity & scrutiny from our trust monitor. Our radar of previous hurts, childhood wounds, experiences of having our trust broken is on the look- out for indicators & first whiff of something fishy, our self-preservation armour clunks into place. We are full of so many downloaded mis-trust messages in our psychological inner world – “don’t talk to strangers”, “be careful, the world is not a safe place”,  “ people are only nice to you because they want something”

Dr Stephen Covey (famous for his 7 habits of highly effective people) says in his book Smart Trust, that there is a high cost to maintaining our worldview of blind trust (gullibility) or distrust (suspicion) – we get hurt, burned and more importantly, we close off the spontaneity, magic, joy & energy in our lives & relationships.

to trust is to take a risk, and risks are to be taken wisely. But to trust is also to open new worlds

 Fernando Flores former finance minister of Chile

To learn to trust is a delightful journey, getting wise to the range of components within us to help us make decisions. Here’s how..

  1.  Change your internal downloaded landscape-behaviours, programming, attitudes
  2. Learn to trust yourself : decision making, discernment, credibility, competence, gut-feeling
  3.  Act with integrity – walk your talk/new attitude, demonstrate trustworthiness
  4.  Expect trust, extend trust to others -allow yourself to be vulnerable, authentic in your communications

 Building relationships, you build trust, when trust is present, magic & new energy emerges, then anything can happen

Pamela Harland

Who is the most trusted person in your team – why? Which leader in your company do you have most trust in – why? Find out how to increase the trust in your team. Find out how to create a high-trust environment at work.

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Pamela Harland, Wellbeing Consultant holds wellbeing seminars at work for team trust building & provides wellbeing mentoring sessions for professionals.

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