What impact does your birth experience play in your life?

I didn’t realise how much it does!
So many babies are induced, do we realise the impact of those early synthetic drugs could have on later addictive behaviour? Or C-sections where the baby’s head is stuck & needs to be pulled out quickly. Or the effect of the epidural on the baby’s wellbeing & birth recovery?

Image result for images of newborn babies bondingI have recently studied this topic area & discovered that the birth process leaves an imprint in our minds & energy field, albeit unconscious.  A natural birth with time for skin to skin bonding is seen as the preferred option. The mother’s heart field entangles with the baby’s heart field to stabilise & fit together to create connection & bonding.…

Energy Psychology Training EFT & Matrix in Auckland

SPIRIT OF WELLBEING is excited to promote Fast track training in energy psychology techniques EMOTIONAL FREEDOM TECHNIQUE & MATRIX REIMPRINTING SORRY THIS TRAINING HAS BEEN POSTPONED DUE TO UNFORSEEN CIRCUMSTANCES TO 2018.   If you are interested in the next training please email me so I can let you know Accredited (EFTMRA) One day, four day,…

Playing in the Matrix – new energy psychology techniques

By Pamela Harland, Counsellor MNZAC, Mentor-Supervisor , Matrix Reimprinting Practitioner in the Bay of Islands, Northland (this article was written for Counselling Today NZAC September 2017 for counselling professionals)  We are living in a quick-fix, app driven social media society today.  Clients are getting more au fait with therapy in its various models & techniques. …

Download your Wellbeing

June 2012     Excellent research  into 22 European nations accounts of wellbeing is on  NEF (New Economics Foundation, UK) website.

NEF is a UK charity promoting global
interdependence, thriving communities, wellbeing & future economy for policy-makers, governments & organisations.

NEF is an independent think-and-do tank that inspires and demonstrates real economic well-being. We aim to improve quality of life by promoting innovative solutions that challenge mainstream thinking on economic, environmental and social issues. We work in partnership and put people and the planet first.”

Professor Lord Richard Layard, November 2008

NEF used 2  components in their comprehensive research of wellbeing personal & social wellbeing.  Denmark was top scorer for personal & social wellbeing.   I wonder how NZ would shape up in comparison.

more on Sub-components of Personal Well-being

Trust your workmates & managers? Open to new worlds

Trust is a very special commodity.

Yet we live in a world full of low-trust & suspicion. The emerging streams of newsfeed fill our waking lives with examples of discrepancies, dishonesty, ulterior motives, not- so-hidden agendas, personal gains, neglectful practice & backhanders which feeds us with low-trust.  So who can we trust? And how? I was always told that there’s no such thing as automatic trust, you have to earn it!

Getting savvy to our own psychological trusting makeup helps us to see through the mist & smokescreens of good relating with others. Personal relationships, romantic relationships, work relationships all demand a level of receptivity & scrutiny from our trust monitor. Our radar of previous hurts, childhood wounds, experiences of having our trust broken is on the look- out for indicators & first whiff of something fishy, our self-preservation armour clunks into place. We are full of so many downloaded mis-trust messages in our psychological inner world – “don’t talk to strangers”, “be careful, the world is not a safe place”,  “ people are only nice to you because they want something”

Using technology to enable dreaming

Has our technology — our cell phones and iPods and cameras — stopped us from dreaming?  Young artist Shilo Shiv Suleman says no, as she demos “Khoya,” her new storybook for iPad, which floats us through a magical world in 7 minutes of pure creativity. I was mesmerised by the interactive storytelling on the iPad…

GETTING CONNECTED – social media & the workplace

 

30th March 2012

I attended a very interesting HRINZ networking meeting last night for Northland NZ & the guest speakers Steve Shephard (IT) & David Grindle (lawyer) covered the latest trends in social media (SM), the Cloud & employment issues for companies & employees mis-using SM, especially when an employee brings a company into disrepute, illegal downloading & dismissal of staff.  This lead on to developing a suitable company social media policy.  Plus I was surprised by the recent news of a successful defamation case in the UK for a twitter comment!

Employees nowadays, as part of their working life, seem to expect to be able to whizz across to their personal postings & connections, multi-tasking, multi-attention, multi-focused as part of their engagement & perhaps to enhance their creativity.  It certainly seems to be essential in the employee wellbeing stakes as an add on benefit  and probably helps in retention.  Employees certainly want to feel valued & trusted. There seems to be a psychological need to have technologically based relationships.  I wonder where this might fit on the Maslow’s hierarchy of Needs theory!

So here is a recent article on using social media productively.

6 ways to acquire new customers via social media

Compassion Fatigue – An occupational hazzard?

March 2012

Have you lost your joie de vive? Do you find yourself getting drained listening to others’ crisis &
personal issues? Yes I know sometimes life is tough & we have our own issues to deal with too!   As a line manager do you find your internal empathy is running a bit dry? Are you sufficiently emotionally robust to handle co-workers’ grief, traumas, life-dramas, over-sensitivities, anger outbursts etc?  Maybe you are suffering from compassion fatigue otherwise known as ‘vicarious traumatisation‘.

Here’s a handy fact sheet on compassion fatigue 

If you are feeling blue.. my Top Pickup Tips

Image taken from finkorswim.com

March 2012

Some times I feel down & I don’t know why, my heart just kind of feels heavy & I know I have lost my smile. Even facebook seems to be all boring & samey.

I usually go through the process of elimination – is it food eaten, hormones, lack of beauty sleep, the weather?

Am I just having a blue day & how can I shift it into a bright sunshiny yellow-gold day?

If you are feeling down & blue, what to do…..