Yet we live in a world full of low-trust & suspicion. The emerging streams of newsfeed fill our waking lives with examples of discrepancies, dishonesty, ulterior motives, not- so-hidden agendas, personal gains, neglectful practice & backhanders which feeds us with low-trust.  So who can we trust? And how? I was always told that there’s no such thing as automatic trust, you have to earn it!

Getting savvy to our own psychological trusting makeup helps us to see through the mist & smokescreens of good relating with others. Personal relationships, romantic relationships, work relationships all demand a level of receptivity & scrutiny from our trust monitor. Our radar of previous hurts, childhood wounds, experiences of having our trust broken is on the look- out for indicators & first whiff of something fishy, our self-preservation armour clunks into place. We are full of so many downloaded mis-trust messages in our psychological inner world – “don’t talk to strangers”, “be careful, the world is not a safe place”,  “ people are only nice to you because they want something”

Dr Stephen Covey (famous for his 7 habits of highly effective people) says in his book Smart Trust, that there is a high cost to maintaining our worldview of blind trust (gullibility) or distrust (suspicion) – we get hurt, burned and more importantly, we close off the spontaneity, magic, joy & energy in our lives & relationships.

to trust is to take a risk, and risks are to be taken wisely. But to trust is also to open new worlds

 Fernando Flores former finance minister of Chile

To learn to trust is a delightful journey, getting wise to the range of components within us to help us make decisions. Here’s how..

1.  Change your internal downloaded landscape-behaviours, programming, attitudes
2. Learn to trust yourself : decision making, discernment, credibility, competence, gut-feeling
3.  Act with integrity – walk your talk/new attitude, demonstrate trustworthiness
4.  Expect trust, extend trust to others -allow yourself to be vulnerable, authentic in your communications

 Building relationships, you build trust, when trust is present, magic & new energy emerges, then anything can happen

Pamela Harland

Who is the most trusted person in your team – why? Which leader in your company do you have most trust in – why? Find out how to increase the trust in your team. Find out how to create a high-trust environment at work.

See wellbeing at work seminars page.

TRUST IS CONTAGIOUS, TAKE A LEAP OF TRUST TODAY

Pamela Harland, Wellbeing Consultant holds wellbeing seminars at work for team trust building & provides wellbeing mentoring sessions for professionals.

I was mesmerised by the interactive storytelling on the iPad & loved the way she creatively brought nature alive.  Shilo says “I was terrified by this idea that I would lose the ability to enjoy and appreciate the sunset without having my camera on me, without tweeting it to my friends. It felt like technology should enable magic, not kill it.”

I am inspired by Shilo’s creativity but  left wondering is virtual nature is enough for our hearts & soul? Or is it too dis-connected?  Nothing really touches us in the same way the colours of the sunset, or the energy of ocean waves breaking on the shore fill us with awe, grace & light.  This technology can certainly helps children wake up to new possibilities, find alternative realities to urban city life.  Children are loosing the art of creativity, wonder & dreaming, perhaps this is a middle way.

Take a few mintues & have a look at what the technology can offer! Enjoy.

click here for short talk

Shilo Shiv Suleman

Pamela Harland is a Wellbeing Consultant & Group facilitator, UK Counselling Psychologist specialising in Workplace Wellbeing. Pamela is passionate about bringing Positive Psychology techniques to workplaces, teams and individuals to create a Spirit of Wellbeing Culture.

30th March 2012

I attended a very interesting HRINZ networking meeting last night for Northland NZ & the guest speakers Steve Shephard (IT) & David Grindle (lawyer) covered the latest trends in social media (SM), the Cloud & employment issues for companies & employees mis-using SM, especially when an employee brings a company into disrepute, illegal downloading & dismissal of staff.  This lead on to developing a suitable company social media policy.  Plus I was surprised by the recent news of a successful defamation case in the UK for a twitter comment!

Employees nowadays, as part of their working life, seem to expect to be able to whizz across to their personal postings & connections, multi-tasking, multi-attention, multi-focused as part of their engagement & perhaps to enhance their creativity.  It certainly seems to be essential in the employee wellbeing stakes as an add on benefit  and probably helps in retention.  Employees certainly want to feel valued & trusted. There seems to be a psychological need to have technologically based relationships.  I wonder where this might fit on the Maslow’s hierarchy of Needs theory!

My own dip into SM over the last 6months has been intriguing. The question I keep asking my SM mentor is “ how will this task convert into a new customer, a new lead or service enquiry? How is this helping my business?”  Sometimes I just think it is just a time-consuming activity with little heart-based real authentic connection.  Other times, I am totally inspired, uplifted & of course, addicted.   It is good for a mood break/changer.

So here is a recent article on using social media productively.

6 ways to acquire new customers via social media

I like the way this article explains how the various platforms can be used for different aspects of your business, e.g. FB for events & twitter for conversations, questions, highlights. Sharing meaningful content which has personality is all important, just as using images to engage the reader, a visual statement can make more impact than 1000’s of words .   Being personal, but not too personal!  Once it has gone viral, there’s no retraction. Plus it might come back & haunt you later in life!

For the full article see Mashable Business

16 March 2012

Have you lost your joie de vive? Do you find yourself getting drained listening to others’ crisis &
personal issues? Yes I know sometimes life is tough & we have our own issues to deal with too!

As a line manager do you find your internal empathy is running a bit dry? Are you sufficiently
emotionally robust to handle co-workers’ grief, traumas, life-dramas, over-sensitivities, anger outbursts etc?

Maybe you are suffering from compassion fatigue otherwise known as ‘vicarious traumatisation‘.

Here’s a handy fact sheet on compassion fatigue

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Some of the symptoms:

Becoming serious, morose, cynical, deepened sadness, increased sensitivity, thinking too much about
other’s problems, soul sadness, irritability & low tolerance, intrusive dreams, sleepless nights, lethargy,
taking work problems home, kicking the dog, shouting at the children……

Understanding why….

In the therapeutic world we attend supervision sessions to make sure we are working ethically.
However, what can often get unnoticed in the exploration of client issues, is sufficient self-care. I
have found from working with many middle-managers in EAP counselling & critical incident debriefing
sessions, that the boundaries can often get blurred in a professional line-management type
relationships leading to an emotional overload. Having a heart-to-heart discussion is certainly more
commendable rather than just monitoring KPI’s & work targets. However, many managers just don’t
know how to support their staff emotionally, without getting submerged, drowning in others’issues! Or
having to shut down emotionally & be non-connected, focused on work issues.

WHAT TO DO… read on

COMPASSION FATIGUE – WHAT TO DO

• Stay with a focus on positive strengths, rather than over-sympathising,
• Try not to problem-solve, encourage self-responsibility & positive change
• Monitor your own feelings – be aware if you start carrying strong feelings like anger, hate or despair for your co-worker.
• Take some time out for yourself – get things into perspective, what is your feeling, levels of responsibility, moral & ethical dilemmas
• Seek support from a professional coach, mentor, supervisor (in confidence)
• Seek spiritual renewal often (e.g. commune with nature)

But most of all, be compassionate to yourself!

Pamela Harland is a Wellbeing Consultant & Group facilitator, UK Counselling Psychologist specialising in Workplace Wellbeing. Pamela is passionate about bringing Positive Psychology techniques to workplaces, teams and individuals to create a Spirit of Wellbeing Culture.

Image taken from http://finkorswim.com/2012/01/06/smile-a-guest-post/

Thursday 8th March 2012

Some times I feel down & I don’t know why, my heart just kind of feels heavy & I know I have lost my smile. Even facebook seems to be all boring & samey.

I usually go through the process of elimination – is it food eaten, hormones, lack of beauty sleep, the weather?

Am I just having a blue day & how can I shift it into a bright sunshiny yellow-gold day?

If you are feeling blue, what to do…..

1. watch something funny - laughing baby Micah

Baby Micah laughing at the sound of ripping paper – an amazing 38.7 million views! Such an infectious, pure laugh & we all used to belly laugh like that once upon a time!

2) read something truly inspiring, meaningful & uplifting .

Try an OSHO wisdom card

–pick a card for today

what to do……..read on

3) listen to an inspiring TED Ideas worth spreading video clip

– just a 10 min break can make so much difference. Have a look at Thandie Newton Embracing Otherness.

http://www.ted.com/talks/thandie_newton_embracing_otherness_embracing_myself.html

4) count your blessings –

every cloud has a silver lining, so find your silver ingot of blessings – find at least 5 wonderful things happening RIGHT NOW in your life, then you are on to something bigger & greater than your blue mood.

5) have a decent cuppa

(this is one of my personal favourites) try Kerikeri organic tea/ NZ chai – hmmm

http://www.kerikeritea.co.nz/choose-a-tea/indian-tea/

There’s nothing like a good ol’ English brew to set the world to rights!

Having the blues can be a good experience, it’s your Inner Self letting you know that it’s time to nurture & love yourself more!

Pamela Harland is a Wellbeing Consultant & Group facilitator, UK Counselling Psychologist specialising in Workplace Wellbeing. Pamela is passionate about bringing Positive Psychology techniques to workplaces, teams and individuals to create a Spirit of Wellbeing Culture.

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Friday 24 Feb 2012

Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate, Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure, It is our light, not our darkness that frightens us most.  As you let your light shine, you unconsciously give others permission to do the same, Liberated from your fear, your presence liberates others.  Nelson Mandela’s inaugural speech 1994

Looking at our emotional health at work, I was intrigued by a recent UK study by Chartered Institute of Personnel & Development (CIPD)

on supporting mental health in the workplace.  In 2011, they commissioned YouGov to survey over 2000 employees to identify their experiences & attitudes about the degree of mental health at work. 26% reported mental health difficulties, with women higher than men. Rates were also higher in the 35 to 44 year age group.

CIPD also cite the CAUSES of mental health problems

15% of those surveyed say the cause was problems at work, 20% report cause was their personal lives & 65% report a combination of the both. Gender differences were shown here too with women more likely to say cause was due to personal reasons whereas men more likely to say work was the cause of their poor mental health.    This study shows that work can be causing undue  mental health problems which creates implications for organisations in their legislative duty of care to staff.

Also a recent article on Stuff

showed the mounting costs of mental illness on organisations, estimating the cost to organisations in the region of NZ$2000 per employee a year in terms off  sickness absence, reduced productivity at work and replacing staff who leave their jobs because of mental ill health.

 So why is work becoming such a source of difficult mental health?

Is the problem a work issue or is the problem within us, the workforce? I wondered what happened to the jolly 7 dwarfs in Snow White singing ’hi ho, hi ho, it’s off to work we go’.   If we are truly following our heart’s desires into meaningful activity & occupation, how come we find ourselves stuck in jobs that misfit? Plus suffering huge anxieties around changing careers & jobs? What happened to career development,  job fulfillment & satisfaction?  Could it be the desires of life that drive us for more & more must haves & the wrong job that pays for it all – bigger house, new car, big screen TV, e-reader, ipad, ipod – ipaddy! 

So we need to wake up to what are our fundamental needs & surely better to focus on our passion, drive and expression of this in our work for us & for our families & community.

From my varied experiences of providing E AP support over the last something like 10 years (NZ & UK),  I have noticed that it’s usually at the crucial point of no return that sends workers for professional help, falling along that out of control slippery road towards the emotional ‘burn out’ cliff top, falling into the scary abyss of break down below – uncontrollable eye leaking, hyper -sensitivity, often angry outbursts over silly little things, high axiety, depression & hopelessness. My clients report this space is a a very lonely place, & once out, never ever want to return.

Here’s 3 examples of the reported causes of mental difficulties that takes people over the brink –

1. High stress of uncertainty & difficult workloads

Will I achieve the targets this month /outcomes of a performance review, seeing no end to the pressures, expected to do the jobs of 2 people (especially after other staff leave & are not replaced)

2. Communication style of line manager

Bullying tactics, maintaining high anxiety through insufficient company information, no clear strategy, unworkable protocols , lack of support,

3. Poor organisational management & direction

lack of appreciation for work completed, job insecurity, lack of support from HR, no channel to input into organisational direction & values, fuelling self-doubt, mistakes, confidence crushed .

Do organisations need to change their culture into one that enables people to thrive & feel nourished?– yes they sure do, but that’s the making of another blog.

Let’s take care of numero Uno – we deserve a better work & personal life mix. life.

Turning our out of control emotional fears (E.F.’s) into profound inner wellbeing & contentment is quite a tall order, especially in 3 EAP counselling sessions! So we need to become emotionally healthy & savvy pretty sharpish!

Here’s a model I created to help me with my E.F.’s, see if it helps you too …….

THE MATRIX OF EMOTIONS – the art of developing inner wisdom

The core self

helps us access & download an awareness of eternal life force energy & acts as mediator to all our many inner voices! Bit like the angel on one shoulder & the devil on the othe as we listen to the conflicting messages. It’s life’s observer, arbitrator & sources our individuality. Like an overview wizard.

Emotional intelligence

gives us that inner rational voice based on other possible realities – I’ve been through worse before & came through a better person, there’s lots of people worse off than me, at least I have family, partner etc who loves & supports me. Getting feelings into logical perspective, Mr Spock style!

Emotional Values

gives us a real sense of aspirational feelings such as truth, integrity, creativity, gratitude, aesthetics & hopefulness – there is a just world, belief in a higher power – inkling that I am worth much more than the petty trivial incidents of human existence. How can I change what I do to make life more meaning /& full?

Emotional wisdom

gives us the inner knowing that we are on track, accessing innate knowledge – that nothing happens by mistake, we have an important internal driver towards purpose & feeling right, we are all linked by the synchronicity of unity of life. The infinite sense of belonging to something much greater than just ourselves. I liken this to our wise second nature.

HOW IT WORKS

So looking at the situation/getting to the nub of the matter, apply the 3 emotional sentinels. Try to view the world from each position. Then connect to your inner core self & see the greater or whole picture. Allow intuitive wisdom to emerge, giving you the answers & directions, the steps to take towards inner contentment & serenity, encouraging inner confidence & trust.

Ask yourself – in making decisions/changes

1. AM I GETTING MY NEEDS MET?

(developing self-respect & heartlove= personal intelligence)

2. CAN I HELP OTHERS GET THEIR NEEDS MET

(developing altruism & empathy= social relationship intelligence)

3. CAN I ALSO HELP MAKE THE WIDER COMMUNITY

(WORK & FAMILY) A BETTER PLACE ,WHAT CAN I CONTRIBUTE (developing compassion & unity of spirit= culture of global intelligence)

• All these aspects are important for sustainable change.

• Try to alter something that you DO have control over

• Take steps to minimise your stress level

• Even one small change can redirect creative life force energy to start shifting other things.

Remember one small step…….one giant leap is the possible outcome.

Get brilliant strategies on board NOW, so you don’t fall into the downward spiral of emotional burn-out.

Pamela Harland is a Wellbeing Consultant & Group facilitator, UK Counselling Psychologist specialising in Workplace Wellbeing. Pamela is passionate about bringing Positive Psychology techniques to workplaces, teams and individuals to create a Spirit of Wellbeing Culture.

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Isn't it time you gave some back to you? Picture taken from http://www.marqui.com

 I was enjoying walking by the ocean, golden sands, gentle lapping waves, emerald-azure waters, I could be feeling absolutely amazing or I could be lost within my dark thoughts. Then I was contemplating what does the internal landscape really look like & how do we take care of ourselves. Maintaining a feel-good factor is quite an art, even an ongoing okayness can be tricky. Our runaway thoughts are compelling & addictive as they fuel the epic 3D stories & tales – current & past.

Before we can say Jack Robinson (and who the hell was he anyway?) we have entered the dragon’s lair, fears, anxieties, self-recriminations, resentments emerge from the dragon’s fire & we spiral down. So many of our feelings especially anxieties, reside in the gut /sacral centre, yet somewhere within us we have the capacity to ease this fire & nurture ourselves, when we start to feel bad.

With over 15 years working therapeutically with clients with a mixed bag of tricks from counselling, psychology, NLP, EFT & education, there are surely some useful tips for stopping us going down the plug-hole with the baby. In my experience anxiety & depression are the 2 most common presenting issues that clients bring causing bucket loads of low self-esteem.

The heart centre has a depth & knowing that we are only just getting a glimpse of.

Working with heart centre, accessing the self-love

OK – here we go, try this – I would love some feedback, does it work for you?

STEP ONE – Reality Checking

Have your feelings but don’t become an emotional-state. Check out your thoughts, are they fuelling a mistaken belief? Do some honest reality checking – what are facts and fiction, find numerous other possible rationales/causes (don’t have to be possible or plausible – be creative).

STEP TWO – Increase self-respect

Now give yourself a break from analysing & self-appraising, put problems & issues on the shelf for now, you can return to them later. Now do some important self-honouring time. Ask yourself -what blessings do you have in your life, what special gifts & talents do you hold, what do you value in life the most. Bless yourself, respect who you are (warts as well), forgive the oddities, you’re doing a grand job, having a human life!

STEP THREE – Fill up on heartlove

Breathe, meditate on visualising your internal champagne glass bubbling up & filling with heartlove juice, remember good things in your life that you love & hold dear to your heart. Decide to do something special for yourself today (massage, body wrap, swim in ocean, walk with the trees & birds) or even treat yourself to some expensive chocolate! Works for many of my girl friends! See the heartlove juice bubble over the champagne glass & flow through your veins, permeating through your whole being lighting up the body with heartlove.

STEP FOUR – Do something special for someone else

Random acts of kindness are powerful change actions & can be so nurturing for yourself too. As you do something special for someone else, you can light up their world & simultaneously make the world a better place. Do something different today, just something easy peazy. Altruism can be the best healer of all. It certainly takes us out of our tiny minds/lives & into a bigger more meaningful reality. Send that heartlove to at least 5 people.

Finally, use your mind to create a positive vision for yourself, your family, your community & the world.

Pamela Harland is a qualified Counselling Psychologist (UK) , Group Facilitator & Mentor specialising in Workplace Wellbeing. Pamela is passionate about bringing Positive Psychology techniques to workplaces, teams and individuals to create a Spirit of Wellbeing Culture.

How much do we long for the ability to sustain a wonderful sense of feeling good? The short-lived highs of a new technological gadget or a fashion scoop hardly touches the pleasure centre spot. We search for greater meaning. So really appreciating the simple things in life, feeling a good aspect in every person we encounter, is an art which needs practice.

 Living in the moment..

Psychologists & counselors are moving strongly into mindfulness based therapies as a way to help people become much more present emotionally & mentally. http://www.actmindfully.com.au

If we can live each day as if it has great meaning, like its our last, would we hold a different point of view on the road rage or the argument with the spouse? What really matters to us?

I was really inspired by a BBC world news article A lifetime in 3 Years about Alex Lewis’ fight with bone cancer, despite being on a chronic health & treatment regime, vowed to live each day with as much zest and energy as he could muster, he died at age 22.

It makes you realise just how precious life is. Life is actually amazing, but to make the most of every minute you do have to look at everything in a positive way Alex said.

Just how much do we moan & grown about the weather, our aches, pains & the emotional rollercoaster of life. Yes I know, I could win the golden globe for best performance of a diehard wingeing Brit! So Alex embarked on a cocktail of exciting adventures & thrills that many of us would normally space out over a lifetime of 101 things to do before I kick the bucket!

parachute jumping, dune buggy riding in Dubai, cliff diving in Cornwall, taking a spontaneous trip to Australia, just two days before he travelled to meet friends there for beach parties partying with friends every weekend, zipping round in his sports car, marrying the girl of his dreams etc etc

So what would you do in this situation, if it was you, a sobering thought, I know, but why not follow our hearts more, break with tradition & conservatism, be more spontaneous & intuitive & enjoy life more to the full, plus FEEL SO GOOD. We don’t have to buy into the struggles & stresses of life. Keeping a joyous attitude is the key goal, finding the humour in situations.

Seems too idealistic? Try these simple steps each day:

• Be contented with what you have (your blessings) rather than what you don’t have

• Positive self-talk (I am an amazing person)

• Have a new (novel) experience at least once a week, preferably every day

• Be more watchful – a child’s face, the colour of a flower, the way the trees move in the breeze & develop the art of wonder

• Appreciate the people in your life (don’t’ focus on their oddball behaviours!)

Pamela Harland is a qualified Counselling Psychologist (UK) , Group Facilitator & Mentor specialising in Workplace Wellbeing. Pamela is passionate about bringing Positive Psychology techniques to workplaces, teams and individuals to create a Spirit of Wellbeing Culture.

The recent earthquake & aftershocks in Christchurch is a prime example, following on from the previous shakes. These life events can affect us to such a degree that the gap between what is happening/happened & what we desire or need in order to feel OK looks like a huge gulf. Even Christmas & New Year experiences of family dramas or existential aloneness can trigger so much distress in us, that we find it hard to engage with everyday life. In these troubled times, Russ’s book helps us to develop self-compassion. He uses ACT (acceptance & commitment therapy) – ACT mindfulness  to deal with these major losses.

I was then reflecting on how exactly do we manage this reality slap.
How can we bridge the gap between feeling normally OK with inner WELLBEING & dealing with the distress of having our world turned upside down?
The 2 worlds can seem to be universes apart.

7 ways to bridge the gap between…… 2 worlds

1.  The distress changes form as the shock moves through our minds, emotions & body – yes don’t forget the physical sensations of shock. Allow the shock to vibrate through, take time. The numbness transitioning into dawning reality can be quite painful.

2.  Nurture yourself- take time with your family, do the things that help you feel calm & serene, take time out in nature, be physical, eat well, rest & sleep heaps.

3.  Bach Rescue Remedy http://www.bachflower.com/Rescue_Remedy.htm is one of the must haves in the handbag/glove compartment – use frequently, 2 sprays under the tongue & then take a deep breath. Brings a feeling of calmness. Also good for distressed children.

4.  Stay in the moment of RIGHT NOW, focused on sensory awareness, present to what is happening right now rather than re-running the distress in our minds or trying to make changes too early.

5.  De-stress – remember that you are feeling more sensitive & emotional (tearful, angry) than normal so keep yourself stress-free at home, at work, in your relationships. Try not to over-react to small things.

6.  Mix with people who matter to you – partners, family, friends, surround yourself with their love, respect & care (you don’t need their advice or problem-solving skills)

7.  Remember – life is a process of change, nothing is static, be flexible, we do not have control over some external events we can only control our thoughts, feelings & reactions – be self-compassionate www.self-compassion.org/what-is-self-compassion/the-three-elements-of-self-compassion.html

For more info on how to cope with reality slaps – bring back & anchor WELLBEING

Contact Pamela 021 114 7878 for individual sessions or workplace seminars

Pamela Harland is a qualified Counselling Psychologist (UK) , Group Facilitator & Mentor specialising in Workplace Wellbeing. Pamela is passionate about bringing Positive Psychology techniques to workplaces, teams and individuals to create a Spirit of Wellbeing Culture.

Picture = Artwork: Yue Minjun, Noah’s Ark, 2006 Laughing Men

Have you ever wondered why it is that some work interactions and events can trigger big emotional responses such as over-reactions, misunderstandings, injustices, defensiveness or emotional shut down, retaliations?

From my client work through EAP schemes over the years I am amazed at the amount of bullying that exists in organisations – hierarchical, horizontal, group peer pressure & so on. I wonder why it is becoming so common place when we all have  the right to a nurturing and supportive organisational culture instead of one which is harmful & anxious.

I found December’s HRINZ meeting with Laura Crawshaw, Boss Whispering Institute – Intervening With Abrasive Leaders, very interesting in its perspective of providing group feedback to the ‘bully’ focused on interpersonal behaviour that causes emotional distress in coworkers sufficient to disrupt the organisational functioning, without the need for formal investigations & defences. see http://www.bosswhispering.com/

For coworkers who find themselves in a difficult relationship environment or victim mode, there is a better way to be – develop the inner super-visor.

Learning the art of mindful non-reaction to people & situations outside of ourselves is a Buddhist life’s mission, trying to stay in a place of equilibrium. We can’t wait that long! In my view there is another ‘middle way’ which is far more self-kind.

The authentic Inner Self is an enriching source of our true essence, full of unbridled creativity & curiosity for experience. However, the mind with its analytical dialogue is the dog with a bone – the mental drama re-runs of I should have said…he must have meant……does he not understand……..& so on.   How do we step off the endless inner chatterbox that usually collapses our self-confidence & self-worth? How do we access our inner Spirit for joyful life?

What we need to do is access our Inner Wise Super-Vision.

5 easy ways to develop the wise internal supervisor

Taken from the counseling therapeutic model of working with clients, we can develop the art of bringing in the WISE INTERNAL SUPERVISOR.

Its like moving into a 3rd position – having an overview of the situation, like watching a film or like being on the Cloud looking down, seeing myself interacting with the other person & at the same time viewing life from a position of all-knowing intuitive wisdom (which we all have!).

Step 1. Take a deep breath & pause

Step 2. Let go of the emotional reaction & stop the analytical internal dialogue, just for a short while, to gather yourself

Step 3. Bring in your wise internal super-visor mode – access something more meaningful, higher vibrational from your eternal life force (ELF)

Step 4. Have I been here before – are there  echoes of the past ? what did I need to heal, let go of?

Step 5. What are my needs & what action do I need to take – take good care of yourself, develop a positive emotional mindset intelligence

Pamela Harland is a qualified  Counselling Psychologist (UK) , Group Facilitator & Mentor specialising in Workplace Wellbeing. 

If you wish to learn more about how to access your internal super-vision contact Pamela 021 114 7878 for a Wellbeing Supervision session.

Pamela is passionate about bringing Positive Psychology techniques to workplaces, teams and individuals to create a Spirit of Wellbeing Culture.

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